What kind of day are you having?
I had an interesting day at work the other day that left me thinking about the way we subconsciously suggest things to ourselves by way of our dialogue with others.
Having been woken up throughout the night by my 17 month old son. I woke up in the morning, bleary eyed, sleep deprived and feeling very cranky and grouchy to say the least. Making the mad dash through the peak hour traffic to get to the other side of the city didn’t put me in a much better mood!
Being a Wednesday, I was travelling out to one of the stores that I have been mentoring and this required me to be on my game. Not only would I be training staff, I would also be serving customers as it’s part of my mentoring approach to practically demonstrate sales skills and product knowledge.
After downing an extra extra strong coffee on arrival at the store, I am feeling a little more with it and alert. As the day progresses and various customers have been served and in-store training has been completed, my early morning crankiness seems like a thing of the past and I am feeling much better.
Then I have the following interaction with a customer which has prompted me to write this blog entry. It goes something like this:
ME: “Hi There, What sort of a day are you having?”
CUSTOMER: “I’m having an OK kind of day. What about yourself?”
ME: “I’m having a good day, and as it progresses it gets better and better!”
CUSTOMER: “Oh really, what prompts you to say that?”
ME: “Nothing really, I just thought it was a great suggestion to offer!”
The customer looks rather startled and we both have a laugh about it. Before we both know it, we have great rapport and the interaction ends with an easy sale.
The questions I have are: How often do we tend to focus on the bad things that have happened to us throughout the day and how have we perpetuated these less than useful states?
The famous French Psychologist and Pharmacist Emile Coue coined the following term:
“Every day in every way, things get better and better.”
Coue knew well the power of Auto-suggestion and the benefits of repeating positive suggestions to create positive change. He left an indelible imprint on the field of Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy and as a result of this simple realisation millions have been assisted to make positive generative change in their life.
I don’t know about you, but from now on, every day in every way I will be making better auto-suggestions for myself.
P.M
I am always intrigued and amazed at how the world is, hmm should that really be “is” an extistential question with endless possibilities. In my life I often find that if I am experiencing a less than optimal moode, some one or an event during my day (usually early on) reflects this back to me and I feel annoyed by them, their action or the situation. If I stop, check inside, and reflect on my own state, I see that they, or the situation is just reflecting back to me my own internal state. Try this for yourself, and discover just how reliable the world is as your mirror to your inner self and your inner world. This different perspective makes this lifes journey really interesting. I wonder if this type of thing has coined the phrase “birds of a feather flock together”?
Hi Ali,
Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment.
You make a good point, in that often the things that annoy us about others are really the reflections of the types of things that we prefer to disown in our own characters. In a sense the Universe almost acts as a huge multidimensional mirror. The Hermetic principle of “As above - so below, as below - so above. As within - so without, as without - so within. As in great - so in small, as in small, so in great”seems to be echoed in your words.
I pay very close attention to people’s language (amongst other things) when they encounter something that they wish to distance themselves from. I have often noticed that a person will attempt to try separating themselves from the behaviour by dissociating linguistically from it. On the otherhand, if the behaviour is something that they want or value they take ownership of it. I suspect we are taught this implicitly when we are children. What I mean by this is that I have watched some parents dissociate or associate with their children on various topics depending on the parent’s value judgements that are linked with the situation. For instance the child does something that is seemingly bad and one parent may say to the other parent “Do you know what YOUR son/daughter did today?” On the other hand the child does something seemingly good or worthwhile and the parent is quick to take ownership, “Do you know what grades MY Son/Daughter got on their report card?”
One of the things that I appreciate about your post is that one can immediately take the principles you have mentioned and put them to use in every human interaction. Doing so, turns every human interaction into a practical study of the Self.
P.M
Paul, Hawk recommended your site. Just want to stop by and introduce myself and say “Wasssssup?”
I like your beginning and look forward to the development of this site. I have added you to Nakayima under two blogroll categories: Inspirational Journeys & Martial Sites and Fitness Related.
Much success with your new journey. What you plan to offer is sorely needed in this busy, hectic and otherwise, turbulent world in which we live.
Mata ne…
Hi Takeshi,
Thanks for stopping by and adding me to your blog roll.
I popped by your site and Hawk’s and really liked the content as well as the layouts, as such I add you both to my blog roll as well.
I am still getting the hang of fine tuning my blog and it’s related features as this is the first time I have written a blog. Over time I am sure I will be able to refine my use of the various features offered by wordpress and use them to better effect.
I intend on uploading an article I wrote a couple of years ago. This article was published in Australia’s top selling Blitz Martial Arts Magazine. The article details meditation and self hypnosis practices that your blog subscribers may fine highly useful.
Keep in touch.
P.M
good this is called the positive attitude ,.
Hi Allen/Arun and welcome to my blog.
Apart from adopting a positive attitude it is far more than that. Given that you have written a post yourself on the nature of verb tenses I would encourage you to re-read the post above and notice how things shift, particularly with the covert suggestions.
For those of you who missed them, yes there are covert suggestions!
The structure of the pattern is embedded in the post.
Feeling much better now you know.
very interesting, but I don’t agree with you
Idetrorce
Hi Idetrorce,
Fine by me if you don’t agree with the post. However, I am curious, what exactly aren’t you agreeing with me on?
Feel free to contribute.